10-Biblical Anger Management - By Yourself and Angry...

                                                                              SITUATIONAL OCCRUENCES #2A

                                       YOU ARE ANGRY, BY YOURSELF, AND FEEL YOU ARE ABOUT TO LOSE CONTROL OR DO SOMETHING DRASTIC.

                                       ACTION STEP # DIFFUSE THE ANGER-a. Take it to the Lord immediately and ask Him to help you, forgive you, and to help you forgive (where necessary). Cry out to Him with all your heart! DO SO NOW!!!

                                        STOP THAT THOUGHT PROCESS NOW!!!

                                       NOTE- This usually occurs when we have an offence that we did not clear up and let brew, and or a wound that we did not get healed. Whether an injustice or an assumed injustice,  the devil will feed the thoughts to excite your emotions out of control, and you are responsible for the outcome!

                                           a. Clear the situation immediately that may be aggravating the wound (if you are able) and or cease to listen to that which is feeding your anger, bitterness, hate, wound…

b.      Repent immediately of any evil thinking about anyone or anything that feeds your situation. STOP AGREEING WITH THAT WHICH PATRONIZES YOUR SIDE. THAT IS YOUR ENEMY AND NOT AN ALLEY!!! And chose not to be angry, anger is a choice.                                      IMMEDIATELY REDIRECT YOUR THOUGHTS AND YOUR ACTIVITIES TO JESUS - When anger is feeling like a freight train that is out of control GOD ALMIGHTY the LORD is MASTER! RUN TO HIM- AND KEEP RUNNING!!! STOP AGREEING!!!!

                                     c. Cry out to the Lord for a healing if you have been

                                         hurt!!! If you have been hurt, as serious as it is/was the

                                         Lord can fully heal you. “He heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds.” Psalm 147:3. Oh what wonderful things God can do for us when we run to Him for our needs!!!

            -Now rather praise and thank the Lord by faith.

                     NOTE- Anything, thought, voice, teaching, opinion…, that fuels anger, bitterness, hatred is not of God no matter how true and just it sounds. Immediately this must be turned away from, fled from, repented of. This the Lord hates. It is demonic. “There are 6 things the Lord hates, seven that are detestable to Him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked schemes, feet that are quick to rush into evil, and a false witness who pours out lies, and a man who stirs up dissension among brothers.” Proverbs 6:16-19 

                                       “Hatred stirs up dissension, but love covers all wrongs.” Proverbs 10:12

                                       “But if you harbour bitter envy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast about it or deny the truth.  Such “wisdom” does not come down from heaven but is earthly, sensual, devilish.” James 3:14-15                                                                                                                                                                                

                                           1. Forgive and pray for your adversaries. (Job 42:10) When hurts are incurred by offences and serious injustices, this is how God wants us to acknowledge them and He then brings about the healing-which may not happen all at once. JESUS-“Father, forgive them for they know not what they do!” Luke 23:34   

                                           2. Start to thank the Lord for His grace, goodness, and love for you. THIS IS THE TRUTH! Worship and sing to the Lord.

  (                     Suggestion  3. Get busy doing something productive until you are ready to confront the issue properly.                                      Set your mind and heart on something that is edifying.

 

                 INSTRUCTOR’S NOTE – In no way is denial of or suppression of anger being promoted. Such action is not only foolish but dangerous, likely ending in a major explosion, health problems, of some unbalanced behavior. God, in His Word, counsels us to deal with anger promptly, prudently, thoroughly, and cautiously, but to never allow ourselves to lose control. “The discretion of a man makes him slow to anger, and his glory is to overlook a transgression.” Proverbs 19:11. “A fool gives full vent of his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control.” Proverbs 29:11

                                 “\Be angry and sin not; let not the sun go down on your wrath, neither give place to the devil.” Ephesians 4:26-27.

                                 When anger is at a boiling point, putting a lid on it isn’t wisdom; however, removing it from the fire, ceasing to fuel the fire, and adding a cooling agent is. Clearly there are a number of methods and no doubt they are all effective when used properly. This is merely one.

                                   “The Lord is near to all who call on Him, to all who call on Him in truth. He fulfills the desires or those who fear Him; He hears their cry an saves them.” Psalm 145:18-9.

 

                                  REMEMBER THAT ALCOHOL, DRUGS, AND CERTAIN FORMS OF MUSIC AND ENTERTAINMENT CAN SERIOUSLY FEED HURTS AND ANGER.

 

                                YOU HAVE COOLED DOWN, NOW YOU MUST DEAL WITH THE PROBLEM – AGAIN … THE TRUTH SETS FREE! John 8:32

                 

1.      CONFRONT AND EXAMINE – Before the Lord and in honesty, humility, and openness, look at the issues.

                               NOTE- It may be helpful to tell it to a trusted, responsible, and unbiased individual that has good godly discernment and judgment. Someone who will tell you what you need to hear, and not just what you want to hear. If necessary such a person may be able to help you see more clearly and from another perspective as well as help you walk through confusing, tormenting, or fearful thoughts. It is especially crucial to have someone who will also pray with and for you.   “Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective.” James 5:16

 

                  A.OPEN UP TO THE LORD!   What is the problem? Why are you angry? Do you have a right to be angry? Is it JUSTIFIABLE, on what scriptural basis, and to what extent? What does God’s Word allow or require for a response?

                              What was the situation, circumstance(s), and what are/is your issue(s)? Were you a victim or were/ you involved, and to what extents? NOTE - When we are involved especially in conflicts, we are likely guilty of something that needs to be repented of and even made right.

                                 NOTE- Again, remember that self-justifying clouds errors and wrongs and hinders reconciliation, peace, and healing.

                               B. DEAL WITH it RIGHT AWAY:

a.    Hurts that are unhealed, like physical wounds, may not only be painful and sensitive, but also in danger of becoming seriously infected to harming the health of a greater part of the being, Go to Jesus right now and receiving His loving healing for your hurt. He loves you so much - “He heals the broken hearted.” Psalm 147:3

b.    Are pride, wrong motives, or hidden agendas involved? (These are most easily identified by constantly self-justifying, unreasonableness, and unwillingness to negotiate or reconcile.) Numbers 16 EXAMINE, IDENTIFY, ACKNOWLEDGE, REPENT-NOW!!

c.     When hurts are involved, forgiveness is absolutely required for healing to be granted. God gives us the grace to do so when we respond in faith. STOP, CONSIDER, DECIDE, DO SO-NOW! JESUS LOVES YOU!!!

d.    When guilt is involved even if we were unjustly treated, God requires our repentance including any act of rectifying that may be necessary in order for us to be able to receive our healing. Hosea 7:1

e.     Flares of anger, and constant anger are sometimes an indication of a guilty conscience.

STOP, EXAMINE, IDENTIFY, ACKNOWLEDGE, CONFESS, REPENT- NOW!!!

NOTE- VERIFY IF YOUR GUILT IS MANMADE, SELFMADE, OR GODMADE

 

NOTE- For thorough deliverance, peace, and healing, other steps may be required ie asking the forgiveness of others Matthew 5:23-24, confrontation of the offender(s) Matthew 18:15-17, taking a loss Matthew 5:40-42. If we try to avoid any further necessary steps you may find the issues unresolved in your own heart and mind and your struggle with anger unchanged or even deeper. These can even turn to bitterness, hatred, rage, discouragement, frustration, hopelessness, depression, cynicism… .  Also 1 Corinthians 6:1-7

 

2. CLEAN UP

A.       BEHAVIORS- that brought about or opened you up to this type or other problems. ( “a fool is quick to quarrel. …a fool is hot headed and reckless…) Proverbs

B.       Thinking and attitudes. 1 Corinthians 13:5 “Love…thinks no evil.”

C.      Activities like parting, drinking, immoral activity, certain types of entertainment,…Ephesians 5:11

D.      Associates – bad company 1 Corinthians 15:33

E.       Selfish and self-centered focus. Philippians 2:3

F.       Your walk with Jesus 1 John 2:4

 

NOTE-Again, preparations for dealing with explosive anger and re-occurring outbreaks of anger must be done in advance, not only for controlling anger, but also by thoroughly dealing with the relative issues, perceptions, and problems, before they turn into a potential serious situation.

 

“Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of fools.” Ecclesiastes 7: 9

Here God declares that we not only have the responsibility to manage our anger, but also the ability by not taking things to heart easily, nor by allowing anger peaceful company in hearts as a readily allowable way of responding to adversity. The Scriptures teach us that we are to meet adversity by humility, faith, and love. “(love) it is not easily angered.” 1 Corinthians. 13:5, Matthew 5:38-44