11- Biblical Anger Management - Angry and in a...

 

                               

                                                                           3 SITUATIONAL OCCURRENCE - 2B

                                      YOU ARE ANGRY NOW AND IN A POTENTIALLY EXPLOSIVE SITUATION

 

PREDETERMINED ACTION STEP #1- Humble yourself and LEAVE the scene immediately (if possible), hold your tongue, and if you must say something say something very brief, gracious and gently (“A soft answer turns away wrath, but grievous words stir up anger.” Proverbs 15:1) then remain silent, CRY OUT TO GOD IN YOUR HEART WITH ALL YOUR HEART AND ASK HIM TO HELP YOU. Cool down!

                                   #2- A.s.a.p. bring the issue to a peaceable resolve in your own heart before God, and if possible and wise, do so with the situation. Unresolved issues and offences can explode. There is a way and sometimes a price to resolve conflicts and bring peace = Humility; owing up to your wrongs, absorbing wrongs, forgiving, loving. Suffering is often the price. Jesus Christ our Lord is our Greatest Example. “You have heard that it was said, ‘Eye for eye, and tooth for tooth’, but I tell you, do not resist an evil person. If someone strikes you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also.” Matthew 5:38-39.

“Jesus said, ‘Father, forgive them for they do not know what they are doing.’” Luke 23:34. Corinthians 6:7-8. Matthew 6:12,14-15, John 18:22-23, Proverbs 10:12, Romans 13:10

STOP, CONSIDER, DECIDE, SET YOUR HEART AND MIND CALLING ON THE GRACE OF GOD.

                          #3 – If  you are hurt ask the Lord to heal you and protect you. Forgive!

NOTE: Our heart and minds must fully agree with the counsel of God’s

            Word otherwise we will continue in or return to our own ways 

             or those of someone else. Nor will His Word work for us if we are half-hearted or unbelieving.

CONFRONT YOUR SITUATION, YOUR ISSUE(S)

           Why are you angry? Do you have a right to be angry? On what grounds?

PRECAUTIONARY NOTE-

           Be careful in any reconciliation process. “…and the wise heart will know the proper time and procedure. For there is a proper time and procedure for every matter, though a man’s misery weighs heavily upon him.” Ecclesiastes 8:5b-6.

            Deal with every issue regarding yourself immediately. Do not let issues just sit and stew. Ask the Lord to give you His perspective, wisdom and understanding as you look into His Word.

 

NOTE – Every judgment and conclusion you make should in no way defend, shelter, justify sinful anger. Rather they should expose any wrong in us, and give us that much more needed victory and control over our anger. Genuine faith, humility, and purity of heart will secure this for us.

 HOWEVER -There are RARE OCCASIONS that, even in anger, it is better to speak our peace.

 

NOTE!!!! Preparation for this must be done in advance, decisions and resolves made before God seeking His mercy and grace, He.. “Who is an ever present Help in time of need.” Psalm 46:1 “Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and your plans will succeed.” Proverbs 16:3

 

It is presumption to think that you will be able to think things through rationally and have even the time to do so when confronted by certain seriously provoking and high-pressure situations. Furthermore it is most unwise to trust in your abilities especially if you have a bad track record. “Then God said to him in a dream, ‘Yes I know you did this with a clear conscience, and so I have kept you from sinning against Me.’” Genesis 20:6. We need God’s grace now to help us make the changes in our ways, character, behavior, attitudes, before we come to the next crisis. Then we should be able to handle it in the light of Jesus’ character.

 

MAKING THE PREPARATIONS

ACTION STEPS 1- Take it to the Lord immediately: thank Him for (This is a lifestyle relationship)

                                      mercy and grace, confess your weakness and

                                      need to help you change, have right

                                      attitudes and reactions, and forgive you for

                                       your attitudes and ways that aren’t right.

                    STOP, CONSIDER, DECIDE, DO SO NOW!!!!!

                       ESTABLISHING AND PREDETERMINING

                                2-  Repent of and renounce any assumed right to use

                                     anger as a means to deal with an adverse

                                     situation. “He that is soon angry deals

                                     foolishly.” Pro.14:17, “An angry man stirs up

                                     strife.” Proverbs 29:22

                                3- Repent of and renounce the assumed right to use

                                     abusive speech “A gentle answer turns away

                                     wrath, but harsh words stir up anger.” Proverbs

                                     15:1, “We all stumble in many ways. If anyone is

                                    never at fault in what he says, he is a perfect

                                    man, able to keep his whole body in check.”

                                    James 3:2  Instead determine to either not say

                                    anything, or if necessary to speak, give a gentle and

                                    kind answer. Note: aggressive speech and yelling

                                     are also not acceptable.

STOP, CONSIDER, DECIDE, DO SO NOW!!!

4-      Repent of and renounce the assumed right to use

Violence at any time. This includes throwing and hitting things. “The Lord examines the righteous, but the wicked and those who love violence His soul hates.” Psalms 11:5

STOP, CONSIDER, DECIDE, DO SO NOW!!!

5-      Yield up the assumed need or desire to have to

defend, justify, or avenge yourself. Psalm 37:1-10

“Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written, ‘It is Mine to avenge, I will repay,’ says the Lord.” Romans 12:19

STOP, CONSIDER AND DISCUSS, DECIDE, DO SO NOW!!!

These are not an option! The Bible condemns such behavior as sinful regardless of how justified our reasons may be. Should you make a peaceable agreement with any one of these, you can be sure that occasion will find itself and the regrets will be earned.

DETERMINE NOW- SETTLE IT-

NOTE -When angry, especially when we are losing control, having a temper tantrum, or heading for rage, you can be sure your perspectives and judgments are going to be tainted. You are going to have regrets!