12- Biblical Anger Management - Sudden...

 

                        SUDDEN AND UNPREDICTABLE OUTBURSTS OF ANGER

 

This is referring to anger that someone releases sometimes in unprovoked and unpredictable situations, often with hurtful expressions to others, and or themselves. The offender may be very sorry afterwards, but the damage done may not be repairable. This expression of anger must be dealt with immediately!

 

POSSIBLE CAUSES: stress, pent-up frustrations, hurts, suppressed anger, physical problems, guilt, fears, undisciplined behavior, and any combination. These are amplified by or even caused by alcohol and drugs, occult practices and demonic activity, or bad relationships.

 

SUPPRESSIONS AND DENIAL, PROVERBS 26:24-26.

PRESSURES                                  PSALM 106:32-33.

WOUNDS                                       MATTHEW 5:21-24

TORMENTS                                  1 SAMUEL 16:14-16

 

 The danger with these is that they smolder and even grow. When the pressure hits maximum or triggered, an eruption occurs!

SOME CONTRIBUTING FACTORS:

SUPRESSION – Trying to manage strong feelings i.e. hurts, anger, by will power and even disciplines alone without confronting and resolving the problem.

  DENIAL- Trying to ignore or not acknowledge the existence or seriousness of a wound or anger.

  PRESSURES- Being under and trying to manage more than you are able. Matthew 11:39-30

 Pride, ignorance, and fears are likely the supports behind these.

  SHAME, GUILT, FEARS, HURTS, and INSECURITIES may also be contributing factors.

TORMENTS= Demonically incited or produced struggles; paranoia, hatred, revenge, bitterness, guilt, fears, depressions.

(IN CASES OF ABUSE , PLEASE  HELP  THEM WALK THROUGH LESSON  # 4 HURTS)

ACTION STEP #1- Take it to the Lord immediately, and in urgency and confess

                                your problem and ask Him to help, teach, and guide you.

STOP! –CONSIDER-DO!!!

ACTION STEP #2 IDENTIFY/DETERMINE THE PROBLEM(S)

                              Ask yourself “Why did I/am I….?” “Did I have a right to…?

                               On what Biblical grounds? Are there contributing influences?

                               ie. alcohol… What are the real issues/problems?

Remember that you must examine these carefully. Accurate diagnosis will determine a quicker and more thorough liberty. Often we feel justified, but in certain types of anger it is a cover for pride, fed and inspired by the presuppositions of others or your own. Whatever, these must be exposed and repented of. God’s Word under the guidance of His Holy Spirit can point these out to you, if your heart is open to correction and instruction, and even the rebuke of an outside opinion.

NOTE- The Bible teaches that out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.

             Sometimes if it is hard to solve a problem, find a trusted, God-fearing

             person who you can talk it over with until you can perceive the root of

             your  problem/issues.                              

STEP #3  REPENT/TURN FROM- your sinful behaviors and attitudes.

                                                      This includes fits of anger, abusive speech,

                                                       Violent behavior…= sin.      

DISARM               FORSAKE- the thinking and influences that feed the problem.

YOURSELF &      RENOUNCE-The assumed right to avenge, hold grudges, justify

ROOT OUT                                  yourself, pity or feel sorry for yourself, hate,                    

                                                      or be angry.

                             FORGIVE/CANCEL THE DEBTS- and pray for the offender(s).

STOP-CONSIDER-DECIDE- DO CAREFULLY AND THOROUGHLY-NOW!!!

REMEMBER- YOU ALONE ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR ACTIONS AND ATTITUDES

 

STEP #4               HEALING AND REPAIRING-

                                                   B.  - Apologize - To those who you have hurt or

                                                       offended and offer or make right and restitution

                                                       If necessary

                                                   A -   Receive your healing from Jesus. He heals

                                                        The broken hearted and binds up their wounds.

Hurts, shame, and a broken heart can be so devastating and hard to deal with, all the while perhaps over something we feel we cannot talk about. Consequently they can fester and grow into something that cannot contain. You may not even be at fault but you are bearing the brunt of the event, as in abuse. Oh dear one, take it to the Lord Jesus. He loves you so much and can fully heal and deliver you, help you walk through His most gracious healing.

STEP #5                       DIFUSE THE EXPLOSIVE ELEMENTS

           This means that you will have to make some serious changes and decisions. Changes God will help you with when you come to Him in faith, but the decisions are up to you. To change we need to be humble, open, teachable, courageous, ready to face ourselves in the light of godly correction, to change our thinking, interests, ways. This means that this may touch our values and affections, which may crowd or appear to crowd our assumed identity, especially pride. Changes must always be made in the light of God’s Word as directed by His Holy Spirit and the fruit will bear its own witness. The Scriptures teach us to ask God for wisdom Who gives freely.

NOTE. – Often full changes are not required, but merely adjustments. If changes are made where only adjustments are needed, the problems may just take another form. Also some changes are more gradual and take time, a process.

 

                   REMEMBER- GOING AFTER THE ROOT OF ANY PROBLEM IS

                             ABSOLUTELY IMPERATIVE IN ORDER TO SOLVE

                              WRONG BEHAVIOR, ESPECIALLY RE-OCCURRING

                            PROBLEMS BEFORE CHANGES CAN BE EXPECTED.

 

 Decisions to make changes require careful examination, consideration, understanding and godly wisdom. “The heart of the discerning acquires knowledge; the ears of the wise seek it out.” Proverbs 18:15

Ask the Lord to teach you and to give you wisdom. Remember, “the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom.”

Confront your behavior patterns and be ready to challenge your thinking, views, ways, and values.

DEAL WITH: SUPPRESSIONS- Confront your troubles in a Biblical manner. Suppressing hurts, angers, frustrations, fears, etc… is asking for an explosion. “Take heed to yourselves. If your brother sins against you, rebuke him, and if he repent, forgive him,” Luke 17:3 “…anger resides in the bosom of fools.” Ecc. 7:9

                       DENIAL- It won’t just go away or be insignificant, especially in areas of hurts, failures, weaknesses, fears, guilt,…. Admitting things honestly is not a weakness especially when one has faith. 2Corinthians 12:7-10. “And you shall know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” John8:32. We must be ever willing to face things and ourselves in the light of God’s Word.

                      PRESSURES- Pride, presumption, and ignorance are major factors – knowing when to quit, rest, persevere. Behind this problem the danger is that it can break us before we break it. Pressures accumulate sometimes gradually, and are often just part of life’s struggles. Other times they may come from poor management and misunderstanding, or over confidence. Jesus said, “Come unto Me all you  that are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you, and learn of Me, for I Am meek and lowly of heart, and you shall find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy, and My burden is light.” Matthew 11:28-30. “Cast all your cares upon Him, for He cares for you.” 1Peter 5:7.

 

                                           LETS DEAL WITH ROOT CAUSES

                 STOP! IDENTIFY- CONSIDER, DECIDE, DO SO BY GOD’S GRACE