2 Biblical Anger Management - I get angry easily.
ANGER MANAGEMENT
SECTION 1: BASIC ANGER MANAGEMENT
CONCERN A-
“I get angry easily”
“But now you also put off all these; anger, wrath,
malice,...Colossians 3:8.
“A quick tempered man does foolish things,...” Proverbs 14:17
“An angry man stirs up dissension(strife), and a hot tempered
one commits many sins (abounds in transgressions).” Proverbs 29:22
ACTION STEP # 1- SURRENDER YOUR ANGER TO GOD = STOP! TELL
HIM/CONFESS, AND ASK HIM TO FORGIVE YOU, HELP AND DIRECT YOU. Do so NOW!
ACTION STEP # 2- ASSUME FULL RESPONSIBILITY AND TAKE FULL
CONTROL - CONFRONT YOUR BEHAVIOR-
A.
When you are angry, do
you: 1. Use bad language, say hurtful things to or about people?
2.
Use violent expressions to things, others, to self?
3.
Give into self-pity, pout, and get depressed?
These are all sinful reactions and God does not allow us to
indulge in them. Therefore we must repent (turn away) from these.
NOTE- Any of these expressions may indicate that an agreement
(conscious or unconscious) has been made within your heart to give allowance
for them, at least for certain predetermined circumstances. It is imperative
that these agreements must be completely severed with no compromise otherwise
they will seize any opportunity possible. Each of these expressions can be seriously harmful.
BAD LANGUAGE - “…increase to more ungodliness.”
2
Timothy 2:16
HURTFUL SPEECH – “Reckless words pierce like a sword.”
Proverbs
12:18
VIOLENCE – “Do not envy a violent man or choose any of his
ways,
for the Lord detests a perverse man.” Proverbs 3:31-
DEPRESSION AND SELF PITY- These often developed by twisted
resolves and conclusions and are rooted in pride and
unbelief and lies from past failures and/or nasty criticism.
1
Samuel 22:8, 1 Kings 21:5-6, “Godly sorrow
brings
repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no
regret, but
worldly sorrow brings death. 2 Corinthians 7:10
Do you see that God leaves no allowances for these in our lives,
nor can we?
ACTION STEP # 3 – STOP – CONSIDER – REPENT!!!- NOW!!!
Ask God to forgive you, help you break your agreements and
allowances of rights to them. (these are your actions /choices for which you
are accountable)
DO SO NOW!!!
ACTION STEP
# 4 – DETERMINE WHY YOU ARE EASILY ANGERED
Question yourself, scrutinize truthfully and objectively.
Why
am I easily angered? ABSOLUTELY NO
EXCUSES
AND SELF JUSTIFYING ALLOWED Job 9:20
NOTE – Reasons do not justify the reaction, especially if the reaction
is a habit.
NOTE - There may be a number or reasons and combinations as well
as catalysts like alcohol which complicate the problem. These must be
identified, exposed and worked through thoroughly and carefully. Missing
certain details and issues may likely hinder your success. That leads to
frustration and discouragement.
·
A -Common
factors for poor anger control: Learned and
undisciplined behavior patterns, physical disorders, alcoholism/ drugs,
demonic activity. (NOTE: take time to consider).
·
These will greatly
magnify any reactions of anger and you can do something about all of them. They
are covered further on in the lessons.
*B - Common reasons
for losing control: wounds or hurts from unresolved issues, stress,
frustrations, guilt, fears.
To uncover these, 1- Ask the Lord
to show you. “Search me, O God, and know my heart; try me and know my
anxious thoughts, and see if there be any hurtful way in me, and lead me in the
everlasting way.” Psalm 139:23-24.
.... The Holy Spirit will unravel hidden things that we
may have forgotten or never realized.
2 - Question yourself: What makes me angry?
At what
times? When did it start? ....
STOP!- CONSIDER- EXPOSE- DEAL WITH
THEM- NOW!
(*B - These topics are covered further in the study)
(*A-) Lets deal with these issues-NOW!
ACTION STEP # 1 – PRAY and ask for help.
# 2 - EXPOSE AND
CONFRONT -(Refer to these topics covered
further on)
A- Learned and undisciplined
behavior remain unchallenged for
various reasons: power and control; considered an acceptable
reaction (“that is just
me.”), or justifiable (“I have a right…”);
has not considered or has disregarded other possible reactions to
adversity or offences; do not feel it is that serious an issue and
unaware of the damage one causes.
B - What
are your physical disorders? Are they/is it actually the
cause for your inability to control your anger. Verify before
God Almighty (even for your own sake) then take the necessary
steps for recovery. Are you actually unable to control anger???
C -
Do you want the alcohol and drugs in your life? If you want to
be right with God
they must go!!!
D -
Our behavior often reflects the gods we worship or the idols we
serve. Since they are what we value, they are what we aspire to,
they are the influences that we submit to. Do we behave like
the Lord Jesus Christ? If not, we need repent and change gods.
We sometimes want to deal with a problem only when the
consequences of our actions get to where we are liking them less than our
behavior and not necessarily because we want to actually change. We sometimes
love our sin and do not really want to relinquish it.
The solutions for the ‘A’ factors are simple, but require relentless
wholehearted commitment to REPENTANCE AND FAITH for each of
the issues whether it be undisciplined behavior, alcohol and drugs, demonic
activity... Our responsibility is to turn from our ways to God by faith in the
Lord Jesus Christ. But it is a life-long journey that goes from glory to glory,
not just a prayer.
“And
you shall know the Truth, and the Truth shall make you free...If the Son
therefore shall make you free, you shall be free indeed.” John 8:32,36.
“But we all, with open face beholding as in a glass the glory of
the Lord, are changed into the same image from glory to glory, even as by the
Spirit of the Lord.” 2 Corinthians 3:18
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STOP-
CONSIDER-REPENT OF AND BREAK YOUR AGREEMENTS –
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CONFRONT EACH
CONTRIBUTING ISSUE- START NOW!-
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