2 Biblical Anger Management - I get angry easily.

 

 

                                            ANGER MANAGEMENT

 

                             SECTION 1: BASIC ANGER MANAGEMENT

 

                                     CONCERN A- “I get angry easily”

 

“But now you also put off all these; anger, wrath, malice,...Colossians 3:8.

“A quick tempered man does foolish things,...” Proverbs 14:17

“An angry man stirs up dissension(strife), and a hot tempered one commits many sins (abounds in transgressions).” Proverbs 29:22

 

ACTION STEP # 1- SURRENDER YOUR ANGER TO GOD = STOP! TELL HIM/CONFESS, AND ASK HIM TO FORGIVE YOU, HELP AND DIRECT YOU. Do so NOW!

 

 

ACTION STEP # 2- ASSUME FULL RESPONSIBILITY AND TAKE FULL CONTROL - CONFRONT YOUR BEHAVIOR-

A.     When you are angry, do you: 1. Use bad language, say hurtful things to or about people?

                     2. Use violent expressions to things, others, to self?

                     3. Give into self-pity, pout, and get depressed?

These are all sinful reactions and God does not allow us to indulge in them. Therefore we must repent (turn away) from these.

 

NOTE- Any of these expressions may indicate that an agreement (conscious or unconscious) has been made within your heart to give allowance for them, at least for certain predetermined circumstances. It is imperative that these agreements must be completely severed with no compromise otherwise they will seize any opportunity possible. Each of these expressions can be  seriously harmful.

       BAD LANGUAGE - “…increase to more ungodliness.”

                     2 Timothy 2:16

       HURTFUL SPEECH“Reckless words pierce like a sword.”

                     Proverbs 12:18

       VIOLENCE“Do not envy a violent man or choose any of his

                    ways, for the Lord detests a perverse man.” Proverbs 3:31-

       DEPRESSION AND SELF PITY- These often developed by twisted

                    resolves and conclusions and are rooted in pride and

                    unbelief and lies from past failures and/or nasty criticism.

                   1 Samuel 22:8, 1 Kings 21:5-6, “Godly sorrow

                    brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no   

            regret, but worldly sorrow brings death. 2 Corinthians 7:10

Do you see that God leaves no allowances for these in our lives, nor can we?

ACTION STEP # 3 – STOP – CONSIDER – REPENT!!!- NOW!!!

Ask God to forgive you, help you break your agreements and allowances of rights to them. (these are your actions /choices for which you are accountable)

DO SO NOW!!!

 

              ACTION STEP # 4 – DETERMINE WHY YOU ARE EASILY ANGERED

                                    Question yourself, scrutinize truthfully and objectively.

                     Why am I easily angered? ABSOLUTELY NO

                     EXCUSES AND SELF JUSTIFYING ALLOWED Job 9:20

 

NOTE – Reasons do not justify the reaction, especially if the reaction is a habit.

NOTE - There may be a number or reasons and combinations as well as catalysts like alcohol which complicate the problem. These must be identified, exposed and worked through thoroughly and carefully. Missing certain details and issues may likely hinder your success. That leads to frustration and discouragement.

 

·         A -Common factors for poor anger control: Learned and undisciplined behavior patterns, physical disorders, alcoholism/ drugs, demonic activity. (NOTE: take time to consider).

·         These will greatly magnify any reactions of anger and you can do something about all of them. They are covered further on in the lessons.

    *B - Common reasons for losing control: wounds or hurts from unresolved issues, stress, frustrations, guilt, fears.

To uncover these, 1- Ask the Lord to show you. “Search me, O God, and know my heart; try me and know my anxious thoughts, and see if there be any hurtful way in me, and lead me in the everlasting way.” Psalm 139:23-24.

                      .... The Holy Spirit will unravel hidden things that we

                            may have forgotten or never realized.

                             2 - Question yourself: What makes me angry?

                                   At what times? When did it start? ....

              STOP!- CONSIDER- EXPOSE- DEAL WITH THEM- NOW!

(*B - These topics are covered further in the study)

 

(*A-) Lets deal with these issues-NOW!

ACTION STEP # 1 – PRAY and ask for help.

    # 2 - EXPOSE AND CONFRONT  -(Refer to these topics covered further on)

                                           A-  Learned and undisciplined behavior remain unchallenged for

                                                 various reasons: power and control; considered an acceptable

                                                 reaction (“that is just me.”), or justifiable (“I have a right…”);

                                                 has not considered or has disregarded other possible reactions to

                                                 adversity or offences; do not feel it is that serious an issue and

                                                  unaware of the damage one causes.                               

                                       B - What are your physical disorders? Are they/is it actually the

                                                    cause for your inability to control your anger. Verify before

                                                   God Almighty (even for your own sake) then take the necessary

                                                    steps for recovery. Are you actually unable to control anger???

                                            C - Do you want the alcohol and drugs in your life? If you want to

                                                   be right with God they must go!!!

                                            D - Our behavior often reflects the gods we worship or the idols we

                                                    serve. Since they are what we value, they are what we aspire to,

                                                    they are the influences that we submit to. Do we behave like

                                                    the Lord Jesus Christ? If not, we need repent and change gods.

                                            

We sometimes want to deal with a problem only when the consequences of our actions get to where we are liking them less than our behavior and not necessarily because we want to actually change. We sometimes love our sin and do not really want to relinquish it.

The solutions for the ‘A’ factors are simple, but require relentless wholehearted commitment to REPENTANCE AND FAITH for each of the issues whether it be undisciplined behavior, alcohol and drugs, demonic activity... Our responsibility is to turn from our ways to God by faith in the Lord Jesus Christ. But it is a life-long journey that goes from glory to glory, not just a prayer.

                                              “And you shall know the Truth, and the Truth shall make you free...If the Son therefore shall make you free, you shall be free indeed.” John 8:32,36.

“But we all, with open face beholding as in a glass the glory of the Lord, are changed into the same image from glory to glory, even as by the Spirit of the Lord.” 2 Corinthians 3:18

 

-          STOP- CONSIDER-REPENT OF AND BREAK YOUR AGREEMENTS –

-          CONFRONT EACH CONTRIBUTING ISSUE- START NOW!-    

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