9-Biblical Anger Management - Angry Right Now, But not Hostile

 

 

 

                         ANGER MANAGEMENT- SITUATIONAL OCCURRENCES –1-

 

                   I AM ANGRY RIGHT NOW, BUT NOT HOSTILE. WHAT DO I DO?

 

JOHN 8:32 THE TRUTH SETS FREE. ACKNOWLEDGE, CONFRONT, CONFESS, REPENT, FORGIVE.

There may be a necessity to talk over your issue with a trusted and un-bias party. When we talk about what is troubling us we are more easily able to bring to light what the real problems are since within our hearts they are often clouded over or confused with emotions.  Jesus said, “…for out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.” Matthew 12:34  If there is a valid wound there, as long as it is covered over by our prejudice or bias anger, the problem can never be resolved properly and justly. Furthermore, an outside objective view can help cast light from a broader perspective thus making it easier to resolve and even forgive/cancel debt. Remember, very rarely, is an offense just one sided, unless victimized.

 

ACTIONS STEP #1 –Take it to the Lord immediately and tell Him that

                                    You are angry, why, and ask Him to help you.

DISARM YOURSELF – DIFUSE THE POTENTIAL –

                                           2 - REPENT before God of what you know you are

      guilty of. Ask Him if you do not think you are.

a.       HUMBLE yourself and apologize to those you may have wronged.

b.      DENY YOURSELF the assumed right to defend, justify, avenge yourself. Instead…

c.       DETERMINE the best way to peaceably resolve and rectify the situation as the Lord would have you do.

NOTE !- Trying to resolve peaceably does not necessarily mean we allow someone to hurt us and        leave them unchallenged, but to openly confront.(#3)                               

REMENBER – There are some basic rules that we most always have to apply. 1. cancel the debt and

                                                       forgive. Matthew 6:12, 14-15

2.   turn the other cheek. Matthew 5:38-39.

3.      Confront the one(s) that have hurt you.

Matthew 18: 15-35.

4.      being a peace maker. Matthew 5:9.

5.      CEASE TO THINK EVIL of any or the worst

1 Corinthians 13:4-7.

5. TAKE YOU HURT TO JESUS!

                                       He will enable us to do these as we by faith submit to Him in them. Then leave the justice to Him. Psalm 37:1-10.

                             REMEMBER#2- In advance, you MUST RENOUNCE THE ASSUMED RIGHT TO ATTACK OR STRIKE OUT VERBALLY AND OR PHYSICALLY…. STOP! CONSIDER, DECIDE, TAKE IT TO THE LORD. DO SO NOW!

 

                                  “In your anger do not sin. Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.” Ephesians 4:26-27

                              Go after the problem and deal with it immediately... “anger resides in the laps of fools.”(Ecc. 7:9).

                                     EXAMINE YOUR ANGER OBJECTIVELY AND OPENMINDEDLY

                                  Note- Talking it over with someone you can trust and who can be honest with you can often really help, if you yourself are open.

                                        QUESTION YOURSELF  ie. Why are you angry, and what is the real reason and not just the initial excuse?

er                                         “He that is slow to anger is of great understanding.” Proverbs 14:29

                                          What is the other party’s point of view?

                                          What does God’s Word say about the situation and your responsibility?

                                         Their responsibility is not up to us to make sure it is upheld. If we can answer these questions honestly, then we can determine how justifiable our anger is, and what to do about it.

 RE                    NOTE ALERT! Anger is not only a defense against hurts and offences, fears etc., but is also a cover for pride, ulterior motives and hidden agendas. These can be recognized by self-justifying, strong criticism and accusations, unwillingness to reason, comply, reconcile… Numbers 16:

                                         GO AFTER THE ROOT

                                          Remember that physical problems such as stress and fatigue etc… can cause us to over react and give us unreasonable emotional responses, distort perspectives, and confuse reasoning, and thereby distort judgment.  Take full inventory. DEAL WITH IT AND START NOW! Remember that anger left unresolved will likely end in sin and consequently harm. God holds us responsible to take care of it. Jesus said, “offences would come”, but how we react to them is what God is most concerned about, because He will avenge the wrongs. Luke 17:1, Romans 12:19-21.